Pick one concept from the assigned reading, that has not already been discussed
during this discussion week, that you found useful or interesting, and discuss
it.
One concept that I found
interesting was accommodation in dealing with conflict. It means that one is
giving up all or most of one’s opinion and position for the other person. This
is a lose-win situation and it is not ideal. Sometimes being able to
accommodate to others is beneficial, but there are times when it’s not. I
thought that this was interesting because I believe that we accommodate to
people everyday. Whether we are in a conflict or just dealing with everyday
issues, we seem to accommodate to the other person’s wishes because we want
that harmony within the relationship. I personally believe that it there is
good reason to accommodate to the other person. For instance, if it were small
things, I would normally let the other person have what they want because I do
not mind. But I also see how there are times when we should not give in so
easily. I can see how being able to always accommodate to one person in the
group can cause conflict within the group, because others might be resentful
and angry with the person. Whatever the issue is one should be careful when
they want to accommodate to the other person.
Hey Cynthia,
ReplyDeleteI found your post this week really interesting! I also found it very relatable. Accommodating your values and opinions for someone just to resolve a conflict is a very difficult thing to do for most people. I agree that being somewhat accommodating is beneficial, but you're right, sometimes you can't compromise and accommodate completely. Not giving in easily when you believe in something is considered standing your ground, and sometimes you have to be stubborn and not budge. I really like how you brought up that we accommodate everyday just to have peace in the relationships that we have. Nice job on your post this week!
- Raya
Good evening Cynthia, very good post this week. One thing that I have learned over the years is to never accommodate to people no matter how small or big the thing is. Unfortunately there are two things that happen when you do. 1. you lose. As you said its a lose-win situation and sometimes it is a dog eat dog kind of world out there. There are times of course when the group will get angry and resentful but that's not your problem. What I am trying to say that unless you are doing something inconsiderate and totally against the group if you feel that it is the best choice then stick to it and see it through and don't change your position. Good luck to you and good post again.
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ReplyDeleteAccommodating someone’s decision is a good way to resolve a conflict. When we are with our friends or family, someone will want to do something different. For instance, not everyone will agree to the same restaurant, but following another person’s plan does not hurt. It will ease the stress on our part for satisfying everyone’s taste bud. Having new experience is good since we can repetitive place can be boring. Yet, not every accommodation can satisfy us. If were to be selfish, then we would not make friends. Therefore, accommodating other people’s decision will help make better decisions in the future.
Good job on your post this week about collaborative and competitive conflict. I believe that collaborative is the better option and it is a win-win situation. I enjoyed reading about your example of your volleyball team and I think that was a great example of how it works. With competitive conflict, it is a win-lose situation. One person is happy, while the other is left unhappy. I agree with the statement you made about people doing things for their self-interest. The book did mention however that it can be a good thing to have competitive conflict in a group, so that people will get what they need to get done quickly. So it can be a beneficial thing after all.
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